SOOOO WRONG!!!!!!

Top of the morning my dear readers.

Today I want to share my thoughts on Akon's interview with TMZ. He was asked about the pressures of being in a monogamous relationship; he said a lot of things but the statement that struck me was

"Men are put on this earth to breed and the reason why God put multiple women on this earth is for that; but women aren’t built to breed like that or mate with more than one partner. Women aren’t built that way, men are".

Akon got it all wrong and a lot of people have this misconception. No man or woman was built to cheat or have multiple partners. We were built in the image of God and after His likeness; although you are born again but your flesh is not born again. It takes the grace of God to discipline your flesh  and your mindset. It is very wrong to think "ALL MEN CHEAT"because not all men cheat and not all women are faithful either. 

There is no point trying to generalize and make yourself believe  this misconception because it only makes it ok for some Men  to think "well that's how I was built, it is a man's world so deal with  it". No No No No Mister... you can be different, you can discipline yourself through the Grace of God to be satisfied and committed to that 1 spouse you have. 

I know it is not easy and we all get distracted and tempted at some point. I mean who would not get tired of eating rice every single day. So Instead of going outside to look for beans, why not try making your rice with beans or adding something different to the way you cook and eat your rice.#hope you understand this analogy.

Please share your thoughts....

Thanks

M.E

Marriage!!!!

Hi People,


This is a lengthy one but please take your time to study it and see how this can impact your home. 
LRA - Notes from Messages
Marriage as God's Foundational Building Block for Societal Stability



Sunday, November 10, 2013 - Pastor Tunde Bakare 
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THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE - Part VI

Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV)
Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge:

Avoid what God says avoid. Three examples of a nation, individual and the priesthood
1. The nation of Israel
2. Individuals - David, Solomon
II Sam 3:2-5
I Kings 11:1-11
Neh. 13:23-26
3. Priests
Ezra. 9:1-4

Marriage is not merely a private arrangement between two people. It is a core social institution.

KEY CHARCTERISTICS / INGREDIENTS OF A GODLY MARRIAGE:

1. God designed marriage as a partnership between one man and one woman and NOT the union of multiple partners or same sex partners. This is what God designed from the beginning.

2. God designed marriage to be a permanent union. The notion of two becoming one flesh and the sexual union between married couples typifies the oneness in marriage.

3. A truly godly marriage takes place on three levels:
- Spirit. If you are not led by the same spirit, you will not share the same values.
- Soul, and
- Body.
Most marriages are merely a product of physical attraction, so when beauty fails, such marriages collapse.

Note the following personality Profiles:
Gen 24:12-29 - Posture of humility. Dismount your camel. Get off your high horse.
Physically, Rebekah was beautiful and also Intelligent
II Sam 14:25-27 - example of beauty without brain.
II Sam 18:18. Absalom had three sons but had no time to raise them.

4. God designed marriage for the purpose of procreation. This ensures the continuation of the human race and enables us to continually fulfill HIS plans for the earth. Marriage is the incubator of Children, the only mechanism for the healthy cultivation of the next generation.

It is very significant that while Adam was alone, Satan did not attack him. But when the man and woman were pronounced husband and wife by the almighty God, all hell broke lose.

The attack in the garden was against the institution of marriage. The enemy is against your marriage because in therein is the building block for the next generation.

For note and prayer points:
Neh 2:11,12 - build strong walls around your home, defend your marriage.
Neh 4:10 - 14 this is the good fight of faith.
I Kings 20:1-18 - Do not consent to the enemy's desire!!! Stand in defense of your Gold, your Silver, your Spouse, your Sons and your Daughters.

Thanks Uncle Gbenga for this notes.

Please drop your comments..

Thanks

M.E

Personal Development

Hi Guys, sorry i have been away for soooooo long. I am working on making this blog more user friendly.

Did anyone miss me??? YES u did..lol

We all go through a waiting period at various times in our lives ranging from waiting to get admission into Uni, waiting to get a job, waiting to get married, waiting to have a baby and the list goes on. So what happens during this waiting period? do you keep counting days and watch time pass while u wait for the next big thing?

Here is what you should be doing PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT.You should be involved in various personal development activities like reading a book, skill acquisition, learning something new and preparing yourself for a great opportunity.

The most important resource you need is  YOU. You need to discover your passion and turn that passion to an idea which through research, hard work and commitment would  eventually transcend into reality.Yea I know what is going through your mind....capital,money, ego, kudi, owo, lol. Well, you can start small, start by using the internet to teach yourself something new, use the internet to generate great ideas. You owe it to yourself to continually improve yourself, your community, country and the world at large.

Start something positive today no matter how small and learn something new.......

xoxo

M.E

The Journey So Far!!

 
Three years already wow...It seems like yesterday.

In this 3 years so many things have happened which we never anticipated. Hey no one is perfect, it has been fun most of the time, frustrating sometimes and Yes! boring at some point.

Today I am sharing some tips that has helped us through our imperfection.

•  Only God's grace can see you through.
• Women it is your responsibility to ensure that your marriage works.(Prov 31)#it aint easy tho!
• Never carry over quarrels/issues to the next day. Settle the issue via communication/dialogue not nagging(women) or ego( men).''
• End your quarrels with hot sex.lol some people may not agree with me but it works*wink
• Teach each other with Love and be prepared to learn.
• Apologise when you are wrong do not play the blame game.
• Be adventurous, have fun, build beautiful memories together.
• Compliment each other and create alone time to enjoy your spouses'company.
• NEVER STOP BEING BEST OF FRIENDS. I had to put it in bold and caps because this is very important.

Happy Wedding Anniversary to me and my darling husband. May the Love, Joy and Peace of God never leave our home in Jesus name. Amen

Please share tips on what has worked for your relationship/marriage....I am still learning :)

Naive Woman!!!

Hi Lovelies,

 

So someone sent me this and I need to know what you guys think...

Husband and wife gets into an argument, husband slaps his wife twice. opps! wife goes in, packs her bag and leaves......

Naive woman! she shouldn't have left.....

   Am I right or wrong?

Once Upon a time........

I still cant  believe my friend's loss. I know God let it happen for a reason...but this has got me thinking and reflecting about life.

Once upon a time when people value friendship, relationship and marriage. Our generation has turned to one where friendships are betrayed without remorse, broken relationships have become very common and the most painful of all is opting for divorce when marriages face difficulties.

And I ask myself what has gone wrong? why don't we value life, friendship, love, relationship and marriage??

These days we have become so busy with the pursuit of achievements"happiness'' that we forget the most important achievement that money cannot get us which is family and friends.

Husbands and Fathers are so busy trying to make their wives and children comfortable, that they do not spend time with their spouse and children.

Wives and mothers are busy building a career for themselves as well as building the home that they do not spend time with their husbands and children.

We need to start making conscious efforts in paying attention to the most important people in our lives;

• Spend time with your family and cherish every moment together. 
• Do not waste time arguing,quarreling and fighting.  
• LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.

Live your lives like its your last and enjoy every moment you have on earth. Be good to your spouse,partner, family, friends and everyone around you.


God Bless ya'all

xoxo

M.E

Life is too Short!!!

Happy New year my lovelies,

My prayers go out to my friend who lost her husband and son in a car accident.May God bring her out of coma alive and may He grant her the strength to bare this great loss.

Ladies and gentlemen..life is short..

We need to be grateful to God for the Life we have, we need to appreciate God for our spouse and stop complaining about what we feel our spouse is lacking.

I am not perfect and I do not expect anyone to be perfect but we need to stop all unnecessary fights and quarrels. Some couples live in the same house but yet they do not relate with each other. Stop lying to your spouse. stop cheating on your spouse. Nobody forced you to the alter to take those vows; therefore stick with your vows.

If you and your spouse have got a gap you better start bridging that gap because you never know how long you have to spend together. Do you want to look back at the times you spent together and regret how you hurt your spouse?

The bible says ''wives be submissive to your husband"..I know it is not easy but we have to try to put in an extra effort. Let's not always look at divorce as a way out of problems in marriage. We have to stick in there and fix things.. remember a virtuous woman builds her home. May God grant us the grace.

Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church(God commands us to do this). The bible did not say lie to your wife, the bible did not say tell your wife you are working late when you are out there sleeping with some other girl. Love your wife just as Christ loves the church means you should be ready to die for your wife. You should love her unconditionally even if she is unable to lose the baby weight.

Treat each other with LOVE, RESPECT each other, Be ready to DEFEND each other at all times, COMMUNICATE with your spouse and be TOLERANT.

Enough said for now... Life is too short. Make your relationship and your marriage work.

R.I.P Guehi Okao and Son * sobs

God Bless

xoxo

M.E